Sunday, 13 March 2016

How to Release Your Fears


Things have been busy this past week.

Very busy.

On Friday afternoon, I marked a set of test papers and then found myself sitting at my computer unable to concentrate on work that needed to be done.

I went to the supermarket to buy some food for the weekend and found myself pushing the trolley around, barely able to focus on what I needed to buy.

I had so many thoughts going round in my head.

How can I become a better teacher for my struggling students?

How can I really help them to understand what I am trying to teach them?

How can stop worrying about what I am doing, about whether I am getting it right or not?

How can I stop worrying about whether I have enough money to buy the groceries in my trolley?

How can I make sure that I provide for my family?

How can ensure that I have more time and enery to give to those I llove?

These are all fears and today's #HappinessChallenge says:

REMINDER: Today’s happiness theme is
about “releasing your fears.” When was the
last time you looked beyond your fears and
did something you thought you couldn’t do?
It can be anything, big or small, it doesn’t

So I have been working on some of my fears around money and lack of time.

I have been listening to John Assaraf's meditations in Winning the Game of Money.

I have been working through the 21 Steps of MOBE's My Top Tier Business.

I have been online for about 8 years, listening, learning, attempting to get my own business working with little success.  I always seem to get to 95% and then stall.

Perhaps I have been afraid of succeeding.

Not this time.

I am determined to make this opportunity work.  And the biggest helping hand this time?

The MOBE team will do all the selling for me once I send traffic to them.

I am still working through these steps, but already I can see the huge advantages in this and cannot wait for the Easter holiday to really move forward.

I am releasing my fears over succeeding online, making a business work for me.

“With each day comes a new chance for you
to unlearn all the fearful things that you have
learned; to replace your fears with love, and
your sorrows with laughter; to let go of
everything that no longer serves you and to
put your faith in love once more.”
~ Luminita D. Saviuc,
15 Things You Should Give Up to Be Happy

If you would like to join me and release your own fears by having experienced coaches and a supportive team around you, take a look here and let me know what you think!

To a fantastic new week with fears released.

Saturday, 5 March 2016

FOCUS - Part 2

Following on from yesterday's video with Tony Robbins, I am trying to put into practice the art of focus in my own life.

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We all have so many things going on in our lives that often it is easy to get completely sidetracked or bogged down by the sheer amount of things we have to do.

At the moment I am looking at ways in which I can move forward from my current teaching position.

How can I be properly remunerated for my skills and experience? 

How can I use those skills and experiences to help others, but at the same time bring a better balance to my own life and that of my family?

It is not easy.

There are so many possible options.

I can continue to jump around from one idea or opportunity to another.  I have been guilty of that for some time.  I know that there is something else there for me, but had not really found it until now.

However after a great deal of thought and reflection, of study and undertaking courses, I feel that I am much closer now to where I want to be going.

I still have a lot to learn and do.  So the most important thing to do is to focus on what is in front of me and to follow the instructions of those who have been along the road before me.

Focus is not easy.  There are so many distractions.  Yet it is the best way to move forward into the future we want to have.

As I move along this journey, I look forward to sharing my resources and aha moments, my successes and my failures with you.

Friday, 4 March 2016

The Best Motivational Videos 2016 ► FOCUS ◄ This Will Change Your Life

Tony Robbins has had an effect upon a huge number of people - from huge life-changing to small 'aha' moments.

In this 7-minute video Tony talks about focus and the six human needs - in his own inimitable style!

 "How do you make sure what you do really works?
Model someone who is already successful."
There are so many examples out there that we have to decide which one suits us individually.

Yet there are also universal truths:
" Why reinvent the wheel?  Success leaves clues."
So if we are going to focus on things in our lives we need to make sure that they lead to positive decisions because "decisions shape destiny."

How would your life have changed if you had made different decisions?  What changes can we make now by having a different focus?

Over the past 2 or 3 years my focus has been changing.  That change has begun speeding up more recently and I know that more major changes are happening in my own life.

That is why I shall be modelling someone who is already successful.

What about you?

Thursday, 3 March 2016

Self-love and self-acceptance

Time for Day 3 of Luminita's Happiness Challenge and an issue which can happen for any of us - self-love and self-acceptance.


REMINDER: Today’s happiness theme is “self-love and self-acceptance.”
 It is so easy to forget to love and accept ourselves.

So many young people today struggle with issues.  I believe this is even more the case than it was when I was a teenager. 

Social media and constant celebrity gossip doesn't help our young people to develop into the people they need to become.

It is also so easy as an adult to say something which can easily affect a young person's self-esteem.

Perhaps I unwittingly did that today.  I need to practice self-acceptance with Luminita's exercise.

I am already finding that these short focus sessions are making me think more about my own life and what I am doing each day.

It's not too late to join in!  Let me know if you do.

Wednesday, 2 March 2016

Release and let go

Day 2 of Luminita's Happiness Challenge is about release and let go.

We frequently hold on to things; ideas, situations and relationships which are doing us no good and we should let go of them.

REMINDER: Today’s happiness theme is “release and let go.”Are you holding onto something you need to let go of? Are you ready to let go?
Following on from my post yesterday about difficult students and being able to forgive myself, I know I also need to take the next step to release my feelings about that behaviour.

Are those students deliberately trying to provoke me to see how far they can push it?

Are they trying to do anything they can to stop them having to do work during the lesson?

Do they want to be seen as the student who has the most power in the classroom?

Are they trying to gain attention at any cost?

(The answer, in some cases, is probably 'yes'.)

And probably the biggest reason?

I teach the bottom sets and students who struggle with maths.

By the time that they are teenagers, many of them will have spent several years believing that they are useless, thick, unable to do maths and so they have learned strategies to cope with with a subject they believe is hard and even beyond them.

I love supporting students who have had difficulties learning a subject.  Most of my work has been in small groups and one to one.

I know that is where my strengths lie.  So teaching in the classroom has not always been easy for me.

Sometimes I berate myself for my inability to help the students in the lesson, or control their behaviour.

But I know I have to release those feelings and let them go. I and they need to be able to move forward, not get stuck in what has happened.

What do you need to let go from your life?

Tuesday, 1 March 2016


Today is Day 1 of the Happiness Challenge.  See my blog post about it here - it's not too late to join!

It starts with forgiveness and is something we all have to face in different ways.

The email from Luminita tells us:
REMINDER: For today, the focus is on forgiveness. When was the
last time you truly, deeply forgave someone? It can be someone in
your past or present, or it can even be yourself.
Ouch!  That last phrase hurt!

How often do we forget to forgive ourselves?

As a teacher I struggle sometimes with forgiving some of the students who seem to delight in making a lesson difficult for you and the other students in the room.

Today, in one of my lessons, I had a student who lies regularly to my direct questions.  I asked him to get out his planner and he told me that he didn't have it.  I asked another adult in the room to check with the student that he didn't have it in his bag.  It appeared that he didn't. 

Yet when I checked later on in the lesson when he told me that he hadn't sprayed his body spray (which was chokingly obvious and he was the only student near his bag!) I found him only half opening his bag and holding his planner out of the way so that it couldn't be seen!

The fact that students lie to me is not new.

Neither is the fact that they are often rather bad at lying.

As a mum and a teacher, I have heard enough lies to know when someone is trying to pull the wool over my eyes!

What really upsets me though is the fact that this student can cause regular disruption to the lesson through his lies.  Sometimes I get drawn into a backwards and forwards conversation with him - usually when I am tired or frustrated by his behaviour.

Afterwards I am cross with myself for allowing him to cause disruption yet again.

I find it difficult to forgive myself for that.

Yet I am human too.  I want to do the very best I can for these students.  They have often struggled for a long time, both in school and in the subject.

I become frustrated sometimes that they don't see or accept the help which is offered to them.

Yet I know that if I am consistent, they may realise that they did receive some help and support and one day in the future, they may thank me for it.

I love teaching, though it can be very hard work and frustrating.

Most of all I need to love myself and forgiving myself for my humanity is part of that.

Who should you forgive on this first day of the Happiness Challenge?  Let me know what you think.